Friday, December 14, 2012

I've been very aware of several lately who have lost their babies during the pregnancy. My cousin's wife lost her baby well into the second trimester this past week. They were able to still deliver the baby boy so the family could hold him for a moment. I have seen great strength in that photo. Their attitude on this experience has been amazingly positive. They have a deep faith in God and know deep in their hearts that He is charge of and over all things. They are hurting and disappointed for sure, as are their young kids who were excited to have a baby brother, but they are coping very well. My point in bringing this up? Pregnancy does not go according to plans, hopes and desires all the time. Husbands need to take amazing care (for so many reasons, not just this),of their wife while pregnant. It's hard on the wife. Love them and take care of them! It doesn't just have to work at it all the time. So be sure you do! SNAPP

Saturday, December 8, 2012

I was fortunate enough to be on studio 5 (KSL Channel 5 in Utah), this past Wednesday. It was a great experience where we discussed how a pregnant wife should be treated (here is the link to the segment, ). Brooke Walker, one of the show's hosts (she and Darin are awesome by the way), asked me when I had the aha moment, and I had to admit it was during our fifth pregnancy. Two things hit me at the same time when I answered her question: 1) Kimie has actually been pregnant six times, that never made it into the book. Kimie experienced a fetal demise during our third pregnancy. It's different than a miscarriage, but the baby, or fetus as they referred to it, didn't survive. We were actually at the doctor, with friends, because both couples were expecting and we were all finding out the gender of our babies. We were just into the second trimester and discovered at this appointment that the baby died. It was a tough situation. I can discuss that more at a later time. There is much to talk about there. 2) Some people think the book is perfect for couples who are experiencing their first pregnancy...and it certianly is useful for them. However, I find with the more you do anything, the more routine it comes and the more you take for granted. I took for granted that Kimie was quite used to being pregnant by time our fifth child was born. I never really consciously thought this, but it seemed like I expected everything to be automatic since my wife was "an old pro" at this kind of thing. I started digressing and that's when I realized I needed to step it back up. So, I started writing down things I had done in the past, both bad and good. I noted what other people were doing, both bad and good. Now it's a book, and honestly, my only hope is that it helps a little somewhere. Don't let routine kill common sense! SNAPP